do you think james ever got upset after sirius and remus got together and whenever sirius would have a panic attack or smthn he thought he couldn’t help anymore because sirius always wanted remus over him? idk man ive been thinking about this all day and i need someone else’s opinion

captofthesswolfstar:

Bold of you to assume he wouldnt need James.

Heres my big wolfstar pet peeve…when people think that Sirius being in love with Remus means that James is somehow not as important. Idk if you’re romantically involved, anon, but if you are I hope you havent decided that your friends just dont matter anymore.

I’m married. Rob is my best friend, yes, but not in the same way that my platonic best friend is. I still need her. She is still important to me and sometimes she can help me with things that Rob can’t.

No one ever talks about Sirius being pushed aside when James started dating Lily. I imagine maybe at first there was a bit of jealousy because they werent spending as much time with each other when they were with their respective partners, but Sirius still very much needed James. James saved Sirius’ life on multiple occasions and Sirius holds James above EVERYONE including Remus. James is his brother. They are family. And James wants Sirius to be happy and he wants Remus to be happy and be knows that they dont love him any less just because they love each other

^^^^^ ayyyyy as an aromantic person lemme tell you that shit is so important

I’ve had so many panic attacks when my friends got into relationships because the medias had taught me that their life would only revolve around that person and I’ll become the friend that visits sometimes but mostly stays away

but the reality is, even if it is indeed sometimes complicated to find a balance between your different relationships, your friends won’t and/or shouldn’t ever abandon you for a romantic partner. and assuming that it will always be the case is actually very harmful – to everyone.

strong friendships are essential, even when the people involved have a romantic relationship

How did you find out you were asexual? Because I think I might me, and my friend just keeps putting labels on me « Maybe you’re just a lesbian, or bi », and… I don’t feel comfortable with it? I don’t see myself having sex, ever, but. Maybe I’m just demi or smth. Idk. I was hoping you would tell your story, if you’re okay with it. Hugs!

get ready kiddo cause i’m sleep deprived, have a fever and a non-functionning memory and i’m gonna tell it as well as i can remember it

i’ll probably have to edit it when my brain is less clouded

tw: discussion of masturbation, slight internalized acephobia

okay so it happened in my second year of high school. i was reading a fic with an asexual character, and at some point this character said “it took me a long time to figure out sexual attraction wasn’t just about finding people pretty”. when i read that, my first reaction was “well that’s pretty much what it is, right?” but my dumbass self didn’t think anything of it

at the time, i identified as bisexual and i had a minor crush on a girl in my class. at some point, i tried masturbating while thinking about her (because that’s what people in fics did) but it didn’t really work. i started to freak out, thinking that maybe i wasn’t really bisexual (it never occured to me that i had never masturbated while thinking of a guy either)

one day, i was in PE class and i was sitting on the bench waiting for my turn. suddenly, i broke into tears. my friend asked me what was wrong, but i didn’t even know.

that night, when i came home, my instinct took over. i grabbed my phone and googled “signs that you may be asexual” and then “am i ace self-test”. when most of the results came back positive, i realized that i was, indeed, ace. and then i scrolled the tumblr tag for hours to collect more data

here it is! i hope it could be helpful, or at least make you laugh at my cluelessness!

though i will say: you do not have to pick a label if you don’t want it. if you don’t want to pick a case, or if you want to wait before choosing, or if you change those labels later in your life, it’s all completely fine. i wish you a happy journey of self discovery, and i hope you find something that makes you feel like yourself! Hugs!

here’s one thing I don’t understand about Hogwarts:

how the fuck does the prefect system work?

like okay, we know they are chosen in year 5. they do it at least until the end of year 6 (unclear whether or not the prefects remain in year 7, but I’m gonna go with no because NEWTs) they are two prefects by house, a boy and a girl

and then… does every 5th year group have prefects, or is it one every two year? are there four prefects per house? I’ll go with yes, because Molly mentions being upset the Fred and George aren’t prefect, and they’re just a year above Ron

but if they are 4 prefects, why aren’t the other two ever mentioned? Hermione complained all the time about Ron not doing his share of the work, but were the other two just off somewhere and never helped? who are they???

anyway. i don’t understand the system, but if I did: those two other prefects really weren’t doing their share huh

siriuslikesmoonysbutt:

cadencekismet:

siriuslikesmoonysbutt:

Welcome to being a Harry Potter fan, where the canon is made up, and consistency doesn’t matter. 

I was re-listening to an old episode of Witch Please the other day and one of them (I think it was Marcelle? But could be Hannah, who knows?) goes, “The problem it, Rowling isn’t a very good reader of her own works.” 

Yeah, that’s pretty accurate.