Hi, uh, if this is too personal or you just don’t want to talk about it, that’s totally fine, but if you’re ok with it, what is emotional self harm? I’ve never heard of that before, but it kinda sounds like something I would accidentally do. It’s totally ok if you don’t want to answer

it’s not talked about much, but it’s actually pretty common among people with depression, in my experience at least.

basically it’s when you try to hurt yourself, but instead of doing it physically you do it to your mind. for example, reading something even though you know it’s gonna be triggering for you, insult yourself, or try and form unhealthy relationships that you know are bad for you. just examples of course, there are many many forms of emotional self harm

it’s not any less damaging or a serious issue than physical self harm. if you think you are doing it, then you might need to seek help. if therapy isn’t something you can get right now, i’ll recommend the website/app 7 Cups!

take care of yourself, alright? if you have more questions my askbox or pms are always open! ❤

Peter : My mum told me I can do anything I set my mind to !
Sirius : My mum told me that I was a disgusting failure that she regretted ever having but I like your version better.

asexual rant

( not hp related )

you know what really pisses me off ? ace people work fucking hard to prove themselves “”“worthy”“” of the lgbtqia+ community bc we know that the exclusionists are literally waiting for one of us to do sth vaguely problematic, and then pretend all aces feel that way and are awful.

we constantly try ( or at least the greatest part of us ) to prove that we care about the allosexual queer people’s problems and that we fight alongside them on every fucking point. we are fucking vocal and helping and do our best for every single letter of the acronym.

and what do we get back ?

spoiler alert : nothing.

discourse aside, allo queers dont acnowledge or do shit about asexual issues. i have never seen a single allo talking about the terrible ace rep in the media, the conversion therapies or the corrective rape and abuse.

y’all pretend to believe aces are part of the community then do fucking nothing to act as if we are.

if an asexual person talks about their issue as an asexual people, a lot of people will reduce or ignore their experience, inclusionists or not.

so a good advice for all the allo inclusionist out there : IF YOU THINK ACE PEOPLE ARE LGBTQIA THEN ACT LIKE IT.