Étiquette : non binary

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anger level :

i just wrote a cover of “what is this feeling” from wicked with elphaba as me and gelinda as the gender binary…

im sharing it…

okay so this is by no means perfect but
i had a lot of fun writing and singing it so im sharing it anyway !

(elliot is me, this is from the pov of an afab non binary person)

also warnings : mention of
misgendering, people supporting the gender binary and
transphobia/exorsexism

 

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Binary :
[spoken] Dear worldwide fans and admirers…

Elliot :
[spoken] …Dear friends

Both :
There’s been some confusion over gender here, you see…

Elliot : But
of course I will stand my ground

Binary : But
of course I’ll riiiiise above it

Both : For I
know that’s how you’ld want me to respond. Yes.

There’s been some
confusion for you see my hostress/AGAB
is…

Binary :
Unusually and exceedingly unwilling and altogether quite hard to
categorize…

Elliot :
Female.

Binary :
What is this feeling, so sudden and new ?

Elliot : I
felt the moment I laid eyes on you

Binary : My
pulse is rushing.

Elliot : My
head is reeling.

Binary : My
face is flushing !

Both : What
is this feeling ?

Fervid as a flame

Does it have a
name ?

Yes…

Loathing !
Unadulterated loathing !

Binary : For
your name !

Elliot :
Your boxes !

Binary :
Your pronouns !

Both : Let’s
just say- I loathe it all !

Every little
trait how ever small

Makes my very
flesh begin to crawl

With simple utter
loathing !

There’s a strange
exhilaration

In such total
detestation !

It’s so pure,
it’s so stroooong !

True it did not
come quite that fast

Still I do
believe that it will last.

And I will be
loathing, loathing you,

My whole life
long !

Ensemble :
Dear Binary, you are just too good !

How do you stand
them, I don’t think I could !

They’re a terror,
they’re a rebel

We don’t mean to
show a bias

But Binary you’re
a martyr !

Binary :
Well, these things are sent to try us…

Ensemble :
Poor Binary, forced to reside

With someone so
unwilling to side !

We just want to
tell you, we’re all on your side !

Both : What is this feeling,

So sudden and new ?

I felt the moment I laid eyes on you !

My pulse is rushing

My head is reeling

Oh, what is this feeling ?

Does it have a name ?

Yes…

Loathing !

Ensemble : We share your loathing,

Unadulterated loathing

For their name, their box, their
pronouns !

Let’s just say- We loathe it all !

Ev’ry little trait, however small

Makes our very flesh begin to crawl

Ahhh…

Loathing !

Both :
There’s a strange exhilaration, (loathing!)

In such total
detestation, (loathing!)

It’s so pure,
it’s so stroooong ! (so strong!)

True, it did not
come quite that fast,

But I do believe
that it will last !

And I will be
loathing for forever, (loathiiiing…)

Loathing, truly
deeply, (loathiiiing…)

Loathing you,
(loathing you…)

My whole life
long !

Ensemble :
Loathing, unadulterated loathing !

Elliot :
Boo !

Binary :
Ah !

let me tell you about something that happened for me in the last few days

you often hear people say “i cant use your pronouns, it’s just too difficult !”

well my friend AD had this problem : she was very respectful of my gender and the words i chose to use about myself, but she had issues with my pronouns (the ones i use in french). she thought they were difficult to pronounce, and in the end the whole stuttering on pronouns things was just a bit awkward.

what she did is that she researched other gender neutral pronouns and asked me if it would be okay for her to use those instead. when she told me what those alternative pronouns were, i was a bit disappointed bc they sounded very feminine. i told her that and she asked me if she could use yet another set that she found. i found this one both perfectly neutral and practical and agreed.

the highlights :

  • my friend AD knew she was having a hard time with my pronouns and actively searched for a way to solve the problem while always being mindful of my comfort with the situation
  • she was the one who did all the researching : she didnt just come to me to ask me to change my pronouns, she did the job herself bc she thought it was her own issue
  • she was ready to accept a plain “no”. had i told her my set of pronouns was the only one i wanted to use, she would have listened and respected my choice

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so, you know, next time you feel like saying someone’s pronouns are too difficult for you, maybe do what AD did and try to solve the problem instead of just giving up on the issue

( PS : for my french followers, my pronouns are “iel” and the one AD is using is “lei” )