im bored and procrastinating so i dedided to rewatch twilight

it’s terrible but karen steward is actually pretty good

myqueernessisaquivering:

James: The thing is… I have something big to tell you.

Sirius: You know you can say anything to me, James. We’ve known each other for years, and there is absolutely nothing that could dent our impenetrable bond.

James: I’m dating Regulus.

Sirius: You’re dead to me.

siriuslysarcasticremus:

Hogwarts staff: ok so we still don’t have a school counselor

Dumbledore:

Staff:…and there’s a lot of trauma going on besides normal teen issues

Dumbledore:

Staff: like death…and…torture…?

Dumbledore: Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light

Staff:

Staff: sir, kids are crying in the corridors and—

Dumbledore: the light, Prof. Flitwick

Staff:

Dumbledore:

Staff:

Dumbledore: no, seriously, can you fix that candle light its wax is dripping all over you Flitwick and I want to talk about the very deadly Triwizard Tournament we shall host personally

that’s pretty cool, thanks! i’ll check out your blog 🙂

jk-destroyed-our-best-gay-ships:

nachodiablo:

jk-destroyed-our-best-gay-ships:

i NEED to pour my heart into this because i have been thinking about it for a while now.

i am all for asexual representation in marauders’s fanfic. i have literally read every single wolfstar fic where one of them is ace. and THAT is the problem.

peter is always written as either Straight or Ace ( sometimes aro/ace ) and that is great ! give our community some representation ! i love it !

but here is the other thing.

as i said before, i have read every single fic where wolfstar is asexual. and that is because there are very rare. i can count them on one hand without running out of fingers. they are great and well written, but they are very very rare

which is surprising. but you know what strikes me ?

never ONCE have i seen peter described as attractive or beautiful. not ONCE.

on the contrary sirius and remus ( and james ) are always described as attractive. ALWAYS.

and i don’t know about you, but seeing the ugly guy always written as ace and the sexy guys always written as allosexual doesn’t fill my asexual heart with love and validity AT ALL.

sometimes i brush it off. sometimes i feel like the fandom is telling me that only people that are too ugly to be fucked can be asexual.

so what can you, fellow fanfic writer, do to bring actual asexual positivity in your fic ? well that is very easy !

first of all, i can’t force you to make james, sirius or remus asexual. but remember that they could be.

then, try to describe peter as beautiful or attractive. i knooooow, you hate him because of what he had done so he doesn’t deserve to be attractive. but consider it.

you can also try to include hints that remus, sirius and james could technically be ace/aro. sometimes just a small mention can count as good representation. for example : “i don’t feel ready to have sex with you.” “oh sorry, are you demisexual or something ?” “no, i am attracted to you, i’m just not ready.”

or for aromantism : “i don’t really date.” “you’re aro ?” “no, that’s not the reason.”

see ? easy !

i’m not saying every fic should include that. i’m not saying we should stop writing peter as ace/aro. i am merely saying we can do better.

( thanks for coming to my ted talk )

My current WIP features Sirius figuring out his spot on the ace spectrum, because tbh no one talks about this, and that was a lot harder for me to figure out than the queer part of my sexuality. 

Ace/Aro has such a wide spectrum, but the majority of what I see in wolfstar fics are one of the following identities:

-Completely ace/aro, no romantic interactions. (usually Peter)

-Asexual person with no interest in sex at all, but finds an accepting partner and all is well with no sexual interactions besides cuddling. (Which is great! But also simplistic!)

-Demisexual person who, once they find the right person, behaves like a non-asexual person. 

The Joy of Nox-Sex by @real-live-lycanthrope is basically the one fic I’ve found that depicts in detail a different, more complex point on the ace scale. It would be awesome if we had a broader range of ace/aro identities represented. I guess I’ll have to up my writing game to make that happen. 🙂

oooh, i need to read that !