I am bisexual (or pansexual idk I haven’t figured this out yet) and I have a *huge* crush on my bff whom I’ve known for like almost 12 years. But she says she is not attracted to girls and idk I’m sad. I don’t even know if I should tell her bc it would lead to nothing and maybe a bit awkwardness sooo

jk-destroyed-our-best-gay-ships:

oh honey 😦 it’s completely normal to be sad and to not be able to get rid of your own feelings. feelings dont work like that, and honestly it’s probably for the best

well if she isn’t attracted to girls and you’re sure it wouldn’t lead to a romantic relationship, the only question behind “should i tell her” is “do i want to be honest with her, and am i ready to face possible conséquences if i am?”

i know when i thought i had a crush on one of my friend (hopeless too) i wanted to tell them because i didnt like keeping secrets from them. it was very awkward! but it didnt change anything in the end, except that i had one secret less. i didnt regret it.

but every situation is different, and there could be conséquences if you tell her. especially if she’s a girl, because she might feel less comfortable with intimacy? like, many sapphic girls say girls felt less comfortable hugging them after their coming out and things like that. but i dont know your friend, so i cant know it that’s something she would do or not.

there could also be no consequences at all, and that would obviously be ideal.

but you’re the one who decides what it worth more to you, telling her or protecting your friendship from possible consequences. you decide, and there is no “better” choice. just try and determine which option would make you feel better, and then do what you want

good luck, and remember there will be other crushes and relationships to come!

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