i’m loving the agony aunt nickname, i officially adopt it
first of all, im sorry people assumed that about you 😦
about the other problem : personnaly i do ace puns a lot, i have a shirt that says “i need more space” where i underlined the ace, i plan to do a queer shirt with queer written in purple… you can also find ace flag goodies ! that way, queer people will recognize it and see you as one of them 😉 there are discreet ways to be proud