Hey followers, this is someone near and dear to my heart who wished to stay anonymous. Please – please help them out or at least boost this! If you know of any big bloggers please tag them! – Mod Bethany
Hey, I never thought I’d be doing this, and I really want to stay anonymous, so if you could copy and paste this instead, that would be great.
I’m 17 years old and I come from a “loving”, but emotionally abusive, household. I feel the need to somehow prove that it’s abuse, since I’m often told that it’s not (by my family), so I’ll list a couple of the many incidents that happen on a regular basis:
– my mom has followed me in the car, while I was walking or biking to school or work, and shouted angry/slightly abusive things at me as I walked into school and work (“you’re a rude child! you don’t deserve anything! you don’t deserve me!”.)
– for a while I was living with other family members, and when they recognized the abuse as legitimate and started taking steps to get legal custody, my mom snatched me back and forbade me and the entire family from having any sort of communication with them. That “restraining order” is still in effect, and my technology is thoroughly monitored to ensure that.
– when I was 13, I developed an eating disorder (partly as a result of having a controlling mother) and was a good 25 lbs underweight. When I finally reached a minimally healthy weight (according to the very flawed BMI scale) – that very same week, she told me that I looked like a “beached whale”. Really. Needless to say, that sparked a relapse that lasted for 2 years (since those comments didn’t, and still haven’t, stopped).
– she constantly victim blames me for my rape, and tells me that I could have/should have prevented it, that she’s the real victim from hearing about her daughter get raped, that my rapist was probably just a horny teenage boy, etc. When my rape case went to trial and she was subpoenaed to testify, she came back with an entire list of demands and said if I didn’t meet them, she would not show up to the trial, or she would come and say things that made me look bad, like that “I always maintained it was consensual” and that “I was just angry at my rapist”.
There are many more, but those are just a few that have really stayed with me.
Anyways. I work a lot so that I can stay out of the house and away from her, and needless to say I make a lot of money. I’ve been saving as much as I can, and so far have $3000 saved in cash, stashed in my room. I was planning on using that to rent a place to be able to get out of my house when I turn 18 next spring, and have some cushion money to scrape by while I find a job and living situation in a different area.
Today, she found the money. She confiscated everything, and when she learned what it was for, she decided to confiscate all my future paychecks as well. Because I’m still a minor, she can legally do this.
I need to have money to get out. I won’t be able to work over the summer, and I’m not even sure where/with whom I’ll be living next school year, and if I will even be in a condition or be allowed to work.
Rent in my area is minimum $2000 a month for a small studio apartment.
I never thought I’d be asking for this, but if you have any money to spare, my Paypal is paypal.me/HannahBeim (my name has been changed on the slim chance that she would google stuff and figure it out). I hate to ask for handouts, since I’ve always prided myself in working to earn whatever I need, but I’m really desperate right now. Even if it’s $1, or $5, anything helps. And I could still use donations through February/March 2018. Thank you so much, I really, really appreciate it! If you leave a message for me in the money transfer, I can write you a handwritten thank you note if you want! ❤
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Mod Bethany
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